There were a lot of great comments on my previous Gay Christian post. I have not had a chance to thoroughly look through them all yet, but I will soon and will do a brand new post and will touch on each comment to keep the conversation going. Here’s a response from Jim, I wanted to post it as a new blog post so everyone had better access to it. Feel free to follow-up here, or continue to comment on the first post. We will address your comment either way. Please make sure you follow the commenting rules I posted on the first post, or your comment will be deleted. Thanks everyone for the great comments so far. From Jim:
Thanks for writing. The question of nature vs nurture is definitely one that comes up a lot and there are a lot of opinions on it. I can easily see why someone who has had homosexual thoughts all of their life (or like me, since I was under 10 years old) would think that they were born a homosexual. I was raised by a very loving mother and a dad who didn’t want kids. I also had 3 older sisters. I was basically raised as a girl; this wasn’t my mom’s intention but my dad was so completely uninvolved that I don’t think my mom knew how else to raise me. So clearly this caused a lot of identity issues for me as well as (I believe) creating a powerful need for male attention and affirmation. Of course there is a lot more to how I was raised, etc. but the question is: Would I have been gay anyway (was I born gay), or did I become gay because of how I was raised? I think that we are all born into sin and that each of us has a predisposition towards certain sin/sins. What tempts you may not tempt me at all. I don’t think that I was born gay…I think that I probably had a predisposition or a personality that was more “susceptible” to homosexuality and then add how I was raised and there wasn’t much chance for me being straight. I see my homosexuality as a “wound” that needs healing–a complicated group of interwoven issues. I used to hate the word process; I’d much rather have a quick fix or cure, but I have seen God at work in my life bringing change and healing. I used to only see my homosexuality as a curse, but God has used it to teach me to trust Him, to show me His love for me and to encourage others. If I was “born this way”, I still believe that my responsibility is to surrender my sexuality to God. I may not have had a choice of how I was raised or if I was predisposed but I DO have a choice of how I live my life. When I read the verse in Romans 1 regarding “exchanging the natural for the unnatural”, it makes me think of hedonists…people who worship pleasure and are often open to trying anything for a new “high”. I don’t personally relate to making any kind of conscious “exchange”…maybe Noah can add some insight since he is much more familiar with the Bible and context than I am.
the follow-up posts in this series: