What I love about Wesley is his ruthless honesty. He essentially spends all of chapter 5 making sure the reader understands he is not presenting a quick fix to the emotional ache that gay / SSA people feel. He wants to make sure gay / SSA Christians, as well as pastors looking for the magic bullet solution to all of this, understand that there is no magic bullet. He wants to make sure people understand if they walk down the path of kinship / covenantal friendship, they will meet pain and disappointment. This is not a good sales pitch! But it is real and it is honest. Us pastors hate this. We want a systematic theology that fixes everything. We want the right answer that grounds us in Scripture and that gives everyone warm fuzzies.
Another Path for Gay / SSA Christians: Friendships that Go Deeper than Family or Romance
What you have to love and appreciate about Wesley and his writing is that he is dealing with real issues for real people. I find it is so easy for heterosexual married pastors to come up with cookie cutter sermons and treatises on what the Bible says on homosexuality that are just preaching to the choir. They are really only intended to help biblically conservative, heterosexual Christians feel good about their biblical position on a sin that they don’t struggle with at all. These teachings have little-to-no intention of actually helping gay / same-sex attracted Christians who are held in a daily chokehold by their same-sex attraction, something they have little-to-no control over. These church leaders give them very little in the way of options or action steps, which is why so many end up turning away from the Church and pursuing gay sexual relationships and/or keep things bottled up inside with no one to help them as they struggle down paths of deep depression and suicide.
Another Path for Gay Christians: Friendship as a Lost Vow
Wesley Hill is a gay, celibate Christian. While I can’t speak for all people in all places, his 2010 book Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality was groundbreaking in my corner of biblically conservative evangelicalism. In a topic that had become bifurcated into only two camps, Wesley presented a third camp: Christians […]
Ep. 18: Flip Side Update + interview with Damon Seacott on being single and celibate in the Church
Listen below or subscribe on iTunes or Google Play Key notes: Beyond the Battle online groups for guys are BACK and launching in late October. Check them out at www.beyondthebattle.net
Ep. 16: Noah’s Sermon, Beyond the Sexual Purity Battle
Noah’s sermon from 12.30.18 “Beyond the Sexual Purity Battle” includes his testimony as well as a walk through 1 Corinthians 6:12-20.
Episode 10: Interview with Damon Seacott on choosing a life of singleness and celibacy
Listen below at podcasts.com or listen/subscribe on iTunes or Google Play. Episode 10 brings a special guest interview with Damon Seacott, who has chosen to live a life of singleness and celibacy. This is a great episode for singles to have someone to relate to, and great for married folks to learn how to be […]