(Ladies, I originally wrote this for men and left the language that way in the blog post. Please swap out “wife” for “husband”, “her” for “him” etc. as these principles should apply to you as well) Your love for your wife cannot be rooted in her love for you. You cannot wait to do nice […]
I recently blogged on how entitlement is the biggest enemy in our marriages. What follows is what I call the Kryptonite to our entitlement–that is, the one thing entitlement can’t be in coexistence with: appreciation. In my ten years of marriage, I’ve had nine years of living entitled, and one year (the most recent) of […]
Our worst enemy in our marriages is not pornography. It’s not lust. It’s not temptation. It’s not compatibility. It is entitlement. There are a lot of books and seminars out there on how to improve your marriage (some of them very good). But if one of them actually worked in a once-and-for-all fashion, couldn’t books […]
We all like sugar. Cake, brownies, ice cream, pie, candy, lemonade, soda (a.k.a. “pop” for those from Michigan). We like it in our coffee and tea and sprinkled over our cereal. So if you like sugar, I have a challenge for you. Go find a 20oz cylinder of sugar (pictured, about the size of jumbo […]
If you’ve ever prayed, “God, give me what I deserve,” take time today to thank him for not answering that prayer! Often our times of prayer, and our lives in general, are fixated on what we want from God and specifically, on the things we feel we have earned or deserve. These are often legitimate […]
I recently wrote about the need to mow your marriage. The grass is greener on the other side because you don’t have to mow it. Marriages are high maintenance. Lust, affairs, crushes, flirtations, and fantasies are not. So here’s a question: would you rather live in your house or in an all-inclusive resort?