I recently wrote about the need to mow your marriage. The grass is greener on the other side because you don’t have to mow it.
Marriages are high maintenance. Lust, affairs, crushes, flirtations, and fantasies are not.
So here’s a question: would you rather live in your house or in an all-inclusive resort?
Mow my lawn, clean my house, try to get grass to grow in the bare ugly spots, grocery shop, cook my own food…
Or have a buffet made for me every meal…bask in the sun…float in the pool…free drinks…go on tropical tours…
Hmmm, pretty tough choice: THE RESORT!
No work required. All pleasure. All the time.
This is the allure of lust.
This is why so many people we come across in life seem more appealing than your spouse, especially if your marriage has been uncared for and unkempt.
But wait, don’t forget the fine print: Once you stay at the resort, you have to buy it.
It comes at a steep price. You lose at lot. And now you’re the owner.
You have rooms to clean.
Food to make.
A really big lawn to mow.
A lots of snoody customers to keep happy.
And you’re thinking, “Wait a second…this feels a lot like my house…except a lot worse.”
And if the resort goes uncared for an unkempt, then what?
Fantasy never fulfills its promises.
The grass only looks greener because you don’t have to mow it. But once you go over to that lawn, you find that grass is grass.
And the grass is greener where you water it.
So water your marriage.
Mow your marriage.
Be at peace in your marriage.
Because any alternative you can come up with is a whole lot worse.
Peace is a beautiful thing.
He is:
Author of Beyond the Battle: A man's guide to his identity in Christ in an oversexualized world
Host of the The Flip Side Podcast
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