Much of what fuels a single person to long for marriage is the lack of feeling of wholeness they have, and the idea that marriage will bring them that wholeness. In this sense, marriage becomes an idol, and we know idols never fulfill their promises. Many married people have bought into this trap as well, and are thus dissatisfied with a marriage that isn’t providing for them what they are looking for. Though in reality, only God can provide what they are looking for. Philippians 4:4-13 is a reminder that all the wholeness we need can be found in Jesus who brings us joy, peace, provision and strength. Once we are filled up in him, we won’t be desperately looking for these things in faulty places, as we will already have them.
4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
10 I rejoiced greatly in the Lord that at last you renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. 11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
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