Have you ever heard the “Bible verse” God will never give you more than you can handle? It’s amazing to me in my years of ministry how often someone quotes this “verse” in regards to their situation (they’ve been taught this), then looks at me perplexed with beat up, broken down, “way more than they […]
When Your Marriage is Running on Empty…
(Ladies, I originally wrote this for men and left the language that way in the blog post. Please swap out “wife” for “husband”, “her” for “him” etc. as these principles should apply to you as well) Your love for your wife cannot be rooted in her love for you. You cannot wait to do nice […]
Marriage Entitlement’s Kryptonite: Appreciation
I recently blogged on how entitlement is the biggest enemy in our marriages. What follows is what I call the Kryptonite to our entitlement–that is, the one thing entitlement can’t be in coexistence with: appreciation. In my ten years of marriage, I’ve had nine years of living entitled, and one year (the most recent) of […]
Lessons in Lust: When Even Burger King Looks Appetizing
(Ladies, I originally wrote this to guys. Please exchange “woman” for “man”, “wife” for “husband”, as is appropriate) Do you ever go grocery shopping when you’re hungry? What typically happens is you get to the checkout aisle wondering how so many bags of chips, packs of Oreos, and boxes of donuts ended up in your […]
Trying to Grasp the Unending Mercy of God
Lord, help me to remember who you are and who I am. Help me to remember that I am dust. And that I am a broken sinner who deserves hell. And that you are the Alpha to the Omega, the Ancient of Days. You have always been here and you always will be. You are […]
The Biggest Enemy of Your Marriage: Entitlement
Our worst enemy in our marriages is not pornography. It’s not lust. It’s not temptation. It’s not compatibility. It is entitlement. There are a lot of books and seminars out there on how to improve your marriage (some of them very good). But if one of them actually worked in a once-and-for-all fashion, couldn’t books […]