Much of what fuels a single person to long for marriage is the lack of feeling of wholeness they have, and the idea that marriage will bring them that wholeness. In this sense, marriage becomes an idol, and we know idols never fulfill their promises. Many married people have bought into this trap as well, […]
Reasons to stop looking at pornography…and how to do it
Wondering how to stop looking at online porn? Click here for the best online filters and monitoring software I’ve found (with my reviews) for PC, Mac, Android, iPad & iPhone, including deals and discounts. I’ve shared in depth my personal battle with pornography. I know the effects it has on a person, as well as on […]
When Your Marriage is Running on Empty…
(Ladies, I originally wrote this for men and left the language that way in the blog post. Please swap out “wife” for “husband”, “her” for “him” etc. as these principles should apply to you as well) Your love for your wife cannot be rooted in her love for you. You cannot wait to do nice […]
Marriage Entitlement’s Kryptonite: Appreciation
I recently blogged on how entitlement is the biggest enemy in our marriages. What follows is what I call the Kryptonite to our entitlement–that is, the one thing entitlement can’t be in coexistence with: appreciation. In my ten years of marriage, I’ve had nine years of living entitled, and one year (the most recent) of […]
The Biggest Enemy of Your Marriage: Entitlement
Our worst enemy in our marriages is not pornography. It’s not lust. It’s not temptation. It’s not compatibility. It is entitlement. There are a lot of books and seminars out there on how to improve your marriage (some of them very good). But if one of them actually worked in a once-and-for-all fashion, couldn’t books […]
Men Are Conditioned to Objectify Women & Women Believe the Lie
I’ve shared my testimony on here before about my previous addiction to pornography and how I was able to break free from it. I can gladly say I am at the best spot right now I have ever been in with this issue. The frustrating part is that viewing pornography is like getting a bad […]